Anyone know how to take a wire out of the connecting harness on connectors such as the ASR and FOG light connectors?

 

Are you asking how to get a pin out of a connector?

If so, all the pins I've removed on my car you have to go in from the front to release the tab. There are several kinds, though. Some are straightforward, and others you have to dogleg to get the tab.

If you have a FSM, you can look up the connector in the back, then plug that into the delphi connectors website and get pictures of the pins, so you can see where the tabs are.