I have a date on Saturday and I was wondering if you guys had any good ideas. I'm in the dallas area. Thanks for any help you guys can give me.
Wes

 

Don't go to a movie. Stick to something where you can have some conversation. Keep things moving/exciting. Go-kart racing, bowling, six flags, baseball game, of course dinner too. Group dates can be fun too and be less awkward.

 

Dinner can get strange if there are lulls in the conversation...make sure its a busy place if you go that route and "people watch" if there is a lag.

Active dates are the best like caspergotaz28 said. Stuff to keep the conversation rolling.

Also, make sure to have the mindset that SHE'S the lucky one to be with you, not YOU being lucky to be out with her. Make sense?

Good luck, and make sure to wrap it!

 

SIIHB!

Really though, good advice above. Keep things moving, and don't forget to listen. If there's a lull, ask something about her. ("Did you grow up in Dallas?", "What do you do for a living?", "Where did/do you go to school?") That kind of question is a good entry point for her to tell you something about herself. Girls, in general, like to talk about themselves, especially when someone is genuinely interested. Keep it about her. If she asks something about you, answer the question and then ask her something again.

-Jake

 

Dont date. Not worth it. Im a girl, and if a girl tells you she wants to be taken on a date, shes really lying. All shes doing is putting herself in an awkward situation, and yourself. Unless shes one of those people who really doesnt give a **** about how you feel about the predicament shes putting you in ( ie. spending all your money, wasting your gas, therefore costing her nothing and she gets a free meal and someone to drive her around town all night ) then have fun.

Good luck hon!

 

Yeah, i've had a few that were in it just for the free crap.. I stoped dating for a while till recently.. Now it's, I pay for something, she pays for something kinda thing..

 

Thanks everyone for their help. Oh and thnaks for the warnings but its only tech that it is our first date. We've known each other for 2 years and we have become good friend and now we are kind of stepping it up. She actually one of the good girls that pays for stuff and makes me food but thanks again for the warning. I think i found a place to eat but I was looking for something to do afterwards. Anyone know of anything cool to do thats different?

 

1. Where are you taking her to eat? I'm not a fancy-schmancy sort of fellow, so a casual uptown restaraunt is my eatery of choice.

2. Assuming you're of age, there's the Addison Improv (laughing does wonders on first dates). You could do the bowling/pool/go karts thing....

Since you've known her for a while, you could try to do something she's actually interested in.... IE: art -- Nasher Sculpture Center, cars -- Speedzone, etc...

 

depending on how sociable she is, a movie may not be a bad idea. she may feel more comfortable, being a first date, if yall can simply enjoy a movie together and a few small words here and there. it may work well to slowly allow conversation instead of jumping right into it.

if she's quite social, then the above listed would all be decent ideas.

 

thanks both of you. Those are some good ideas and I'm thinking the improv sounds like a really good idea. I'm more of an up scale person but shes not so i try to find a happy medium

 

I always pay for my own stuff. My boyfriend never pays for anything of mine unless hes done it himself as a surprise.

 

Two more days. Let us know how your date goes!

You know, actually, take her to those bumper race-car things. They are near you i believe. Lots of fun and will definetly loosen up any tense situation.

 

just stick around for a month, you will see another side of her that made you sorry you went for it in the first place. seen it twice myself in 1 year.

 

dont mean to jack the thread...but it kinda is same thing...i known this girl for a few months and were startin to step it up also...and weve been ferinds but talked about going out(being a couple)...now we kiss and hang out whatnot but she wants me to ask her out in some ""special way that is "differant" and she wont forget"" any ideas???

daniel

 

Here's a good list of ideas from a college guy:
-Don't be cocky, treat her nice and don't brag about yourself
-Open doors for her if you have the opportunity
-Try to avoid junior high type phrases. They sometimes pop out by accident. If you don't know what I'm talking about, I mean stuff like "Can I have a kiss?" or something like that. If she wants to kiss you, she will.
-Don't try to rush things
-I have a problem of talking too fast when I'm nervous, so try to chill out and be mellow.
-Don't date a girl you aren't sure you like or you might regret spending all of your money on her. However, if you wait too long, they think of you as more of a friend than a date, and you'll have trouble reversing that.
-Don't date just to date. I don't know how old you are, but if you're young and plan on going to college, date more often in college, not high school. Just try to figure out how to be comfortable on a date when you're in high school.

I don't recommend Speedzone really, most girls I like don't seem to like being rammed off the road driving go-carts. Heck, I don't even really like it, it hurts my back when I get hit. It all depends on the girl though. The girl I am going after is about 5'10" and 120 pounds, so I'm obviously not going to take her somewhere where she gets beat up .

Bowling is lots of fun, but really expensive in my opinion.

Movies are okay, but they are pretty expensive now a days, so if you do a movie, go to a later one so you don't feel obligated to take her to dinner. It's a first date afterall, you don't have to spend $50 that day.

Have you thought of just taking her to a restaurant like Chili's with a few other friends? That will usually take care of the awkward silences. Just don't double date with a friend who has had a girlfriend a long time. They might be kissing across the booth from y'all and that's uncomfortable.