anyone ever feel that their significant other just doesnt seem to care anymore? my gf and were great till lately, she never has time to talk to me anymore, when she does its always one or two word replies, and i do all the asking, she never volunteers anything. when were done talking all i ever get is a bye "click" if i say i love you anymore its like wtf are you doing? the internet and video games are more important than me, as when i called because i had a bad day i was told "im busy playing warcraft 3..." what do you think? we did the temp seperation a couple days ago and she calls back saying she missed me and didnt wanna do that yet she shows no affection whatsoever ive tried to tell her how i feel but she just gets mad and wont talk to me, she either hangs up on me, or logs off aim. i live kinda far so its not like i can just go over there. i got kicked outa my house the other day and i need help with certain things and when i ask for it, she's always busy. i mean im her bf arent ppl supposed to make time for thier boyfriend/girlfriends? dunno what to do. maybe im just overreacting but i need her right now and i cant even get her to talk to me on the phone

 

Dude, those are classic signs of her "dating" someone else or having met someone on the 'net that is telling her everything she wants to hear. I'm not being a *****, I'm speaking from experience. I'm married now but if my wife started acting like that I'd kick her *ss out of the house so fast it would take her 3 days to figure out she was homeless........

 

i agree sounds like she is trying to play you and someone else. Good luck in whatever you do.

 

Yep, someone else is in the picture.

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You are NOT overreacting. It happens. But what makes you thing you NEED her? If you look within yourself, all the answers to the worlds questions are there. If you need support, family and friends are best.



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dont act too worried and show that its bothering you alot. that will be used against you. it also doesnt mean someone else is in the picture, havent you been around someone so much that you didnt feel you needed to talk to them all the time? give her a chance...

 

i'm goin through the same thing now w/ mine. not to that extent but she does not treat me very well anymore. her dad and her always have a field day whenever i'm over always pointing out my flaws, etc. they always say its jokingly but whatever i'm sick of her **** and there are other girls that want to treat me better. i bend over backwards for her and its all for nothing. we are close but there comes a point when you can only take so much crap from someone and i'm at that point now. martin if you need someone to talk to etc you've got my # we are all here for ya bud.

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Has this always been sort of a "long distance" relationship?
Because the only thing I see that you "need" is to tell her what you truly want which seems to be a more affectionate ear to listen to you. But if computer games are more important to her then talking to you, then maybe you need to find a new woman who has her priorities in the right place when it comes to communication in a relationship.

I am married with a daughter and a son on the way. My wife and I work very hard to communicate, but I let her know what I want, and she tells me what she is currently capable of giving me. It is not easy of course, but that is why we work hard at it.

If you have alot invested in the relationship then just don't lose your cool, be calm, and talk to her. Peace, Lalo

 

Im sure you dont wanna hear this, but I also think there has to be someone else. I speak from experience unfortunetly..

 

if there is someone else, kick his *** then find someone better looking. if its a her, ask to watch

 

Well were you able to talk to her? How are things, better or worse?

Michael

 

If there is someone else, the first urge of yours would probably be to kick his (or her) ***. Dont do it. Its not as though that other person is forcing your gf to be with them. the problem is inherently between the two of you. Lalo is right. Communication is everything and if shes like this now, it wont get better when the stakes are higher. I also agree with mr diabolical and tend to believe that theres a reason for her aloofness and deserves a second chance...everyone does. Have you already given her this chance? How long have you been in this current situation?

It really boils down to personal respect and how much your willing to "take" or "compromise". But keep in mind that if you "take crap" or dont respect yourself, no one else will. And if you dont, shell crap on you for the rest of the relationship.

my soap box: people on the short end of relationships have two general problems: a failure to recognize a problem and or a failure to implement the solution. Yours is the latter, but only you know what the solution is.

respect yourself, be strong and goodluck.

Clint Eastwood said it best, "If she doenst kill you, shell break your heart."

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Don't even BOTHER with the guy. Although it may temporarily relieve some of the anger, the poor guy (if he exists) probably doesn't even know she's w/you. Women can be as big (if not bigger) players than guys (I have a friend that's an admitted player of men).

Let us know what happened!

 

notice the smiley at the end of my post, i wasnt serious about the *** kicking part, of course unless he provokes it, then let the *** kicking commence.