Unfortunate news. :( (Reamo04) - Page 6

SCNGENNFTHGEN · 02-06-2012, 01:35 AM

Man that sucks, so young. RIP. Didn't know him but certainly remember the name from here. Sometimes it seams like the only answer. I get there myself at times, so I know. My condolences and prayers go out to his family. And sadly often times it friends who actually give **** not family. I have many friends who are more like family than my actually family. Most of my family are pieces of ****!

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reamo04 · 02-21-2012, 10:02 PM

This is Sandy, Adam Reams' mom. Adam's known to you as "reamo04".
Thank you for the nice things you have said and your condolences. Adam did not have physical cancer - his cancer was his love for a young lady who played too many mind games with him. Telling him she'd marry him, talking about having children, then breaking up - wanting Adam to encourage one of his friends to date her, then back to "I love you, let's get married." Those kinds of relationships claim too many lives- especially young men.
Adam was sick in December. One test showed a spot on his upper left kidney - he thought the worst. The tests later showed it was a 2nd spleen attached to the kidney.
We, as his family, were always here. We would never, ever, walk away from our children or our brother, no matter what was done or said.
We had no idea of the extent of Adam's depression. In hindsight, we have all analyzed our conversations, actions, etc. and ask, "what did I miss? Why didn't he tell us it was like this? The whys are endless.

DonHood · 02-21-2012, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by reamo04

This is Sandy, Adam Reams' mom. Adam's known to you as "reamo04".
Thank you for the nice things you have said and your condolences. Adam did not have physical cancer - his cancer was his love for a young lady who played too many mind games with him. Telling him she'd marry him, talking about having children, then breaking up - wanting Adam to encourage one of his friends to date her, then back to "I love you, let's get married." Those kinds of relationships claim too many lives- especially young men.
Adam was sick in December. One test showed a spot on his upper left kidney - he thought the worst. The tests later showed it was a 2nd spleen attached to the kidney.
We, as his family, were always here. We would never, ever, walk away from our children or our brother, no matter what was done or said.
We had no idea of the extent of Adam's depression. In hindsight, we have all analyzed our conversations, actions, etc. and ask, "what did I miss? Why didn't he tell us it was like this? The whys are endless.

Wow, I don't know what to say. I can only imagine the feelings you harbor for that young lady. She couldn't have known the eventual results of her actions, though.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Johnny Ray · 02-22-2012, 05:14 PM

I'm so sorry about your son's passing Sandy.

blackoutj · 02-23-2012, 04:54 AM

I have no words that could help, but do offer my condolences along with everyone else

corsa · 02-25-2012, 02:23 AM

you lost a good friend and a member
i lost mom of a brain bleeding.it is t easy
but body is gone but soul is a life

DWray · 02-26-2012, 11:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by reamo04

This is Sandy, Adam Reams' mom. Adam's known to you as "reamo04".
Thank you for the nice things you have said and your condolences. Adam did not have physical cancer - his cancer was his love for a young lady who played too many mind games with him. Telling him she'd marry him, talking about having children, then breaking up - wanting Adam to encourage one of his friends to date her, then back to "I love you, let's get married." Those kinds of relationships claim too many lives- especially young men.
Adam was sick in December. One test showed a spot on his upper left kidney - he thought the worst. The tests later showed it was a 2nd spleen attached to the kidney.
We, as his family, were always here. We would never, ever, walk away from our children or our brother, no matter what was done or said.
We had no idea of the extent of Adam's depression. In hindsight, we have all analyzed our conversations, actions, etc. and ask, "what did I miss? Why didn't he tell us it was like this? The whys are endless.

Thank you so much for sharing, Adam. I can assure you Adam made many friends here and we talked to him as much as possible.

Like you said, the whys are endless.

-Dustin

grindol90 · 03-02-2012, 11:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by reamo04

This is Sandy, Adam Reams' mom. Adam's known to you as "reamo04".
Thank you for the nice things you have said and your condolences. Adam did not have physical cancer - his cancer was his love for a young lady who played too many mind games with him. Telling him she'd marry him, talking about having children, then breaking up - wanting Adam to encourage one of his friends to date her, then back to "I love you, let's get married." Those kinds of relationships claim too many lives- especially young men.
Adam was sick in December. One test showed a spot on his upper left kidney - he thought the worst. The tests later showed it was a 2nd spleen attached to the kidney.
We, as his family, were always here. We would never, ever, walk away from our children or our brother, no matter what was done or said.
We had no idea of the extent of Adam's depression. In hindsight, we have all analyzed our conversations, actions, etc. and ask, "what did I miss? Why didn't he tell us it was like this? The whys are endless.

Sandy you know I'm here if you need me. I'll be back when schools done....I hate being 1000 miles away. I know he was protecting me from what was going on but I wish he hadn't. I would have taken a tbd leave of school to help him through it whatever it took... And I know you know that. And next time we will go for a ride in my z

Shockwave · 03-02-2012, 02:14 PM

Sandy,

We're very sorry for your loss. The board has a function where you can search for posts by username, so you can walk back and see some of your son's posts if you like. It won't change the situation, but it might provide a snap-shot that you and your family might never otherwise see.

T/A-Bob · 03-03-2012, 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by reamo04

This is Sandy, Adam Reams' mom...

... In hindsight, we have all analyzed our conversations, actions, etc. and ask, "what did I miss? Why didn't he tell us it was like this? The whys are endless.

Sandy, I am SO sorry to hear of your loss. I cannot comprehend it.

As someone who is rather familiar with depression, I can tell you that oftentimes loved ones don't see it coming because there is nothing to see. You didn't "miss" anything because often there are no signs that the person is in such a state. Even highly-trained doctors don't always catch it.

I hope your "why's" fade into the background sometime soon. There are no answers for many of the "why's," and for others, the answers don't make sense to people who aren't in the same state.

If for any reason you want someone to talk to, please feel free to PM (private message) me. I know what it's like to be on the dark side of that illness, and I may be able to offer some words or ideas that may help you gain even a small measure of peace over the whole situation.

Bob

EDIT: I am in my late 50's, so I have a bit of perspective on some things.

grindol90 · 03-03-2012, 08:20 PM

hey everyone, my names is taylor grindol. me and adam grew up together and were/are best friends. i just purchased a 95 z28 m6 i plan on turbocharging after i graduate school. besides all of that i talked with Adams brother and family about purchasing a roller chassis 94 z ttop a4 after i get settled back in kansas. the plans i have for it are for it to be built the way he wanted it. im curious about setting up a charity/donation for the build with all proceeds being used to build the car and present it to the family as a gift of remembrance. i will say this, the car will be built either way, donations or out of my own pocket in my spare time. if anyone can please om me with advice or comments.

BoostedThrills · 03-05-2012, 04:53 PM

that sucks its march and i just read about this

tell ya the truth I've thought about blowing my brains out and even had the gun in my hand---crappy job and 0 happiness

getting a divorce here soon

on meds now and having lots of sex with a hot nurse I feel a little better now